I've been getting
into baseball lately.
For most of my
life I haven't been a big sports fan, but
recently I started going to SBC Park here in San Francisco to
watch the Giants play. The main reason? One of my girls has
season tickets.
One thing I
noticed about the ballpark is that it's literally
CRAWLING with babes.
I'm not even kidding, it's like a massive nightclub that
holds 40,000 people, and there's all these hot girls running
around with painted-on jeans and little half-shirts.
Half the time, I don't even watch the game, I just walk around
and do pickup. So, this is something you might wanna check out.
Anyways, I find
it pretty amazing how these baseball players
can hit this little ball that's hurtling at them at 100 miles
an hour.
I was reading
some article about this on the plane the other
day, they were interviewing the top hitters about what it takes
to do this.
A recurring idea
that the players talked about was "seeing the
ball".
They said that on
good days, they can focus on the pitch and
they actually see the ball coming down the pipe as though it
was slowed down.
Their brains are just so focused and processing so efficiently
that "time slows down" and they can see everything happening
more clearly.
Reading this
reminded me of what it's like when I "hit state" in
the field.
You know what I'm
talking about, when you have one of those
nights where everything is just hitting, you're firing on all
cylinders, everything you say is money and your rhythm and
timing are perfect.
With mastery of
state control, you'd be scoring more home runs
than Barry Bonds and Jason Giambi put together... no injections
required!
When you're in
state you can do no wrong. It's something we've
been exploring lately: what is "state", and how exactly does it
affect the mind and body?
More importantly,
how does it affect your game?
Sometimes, you
just aren't feeling it. You can't be in perfect
state all the time...
...or can you?
I know that when
I'm NOT in state, there is a DISTINCT effect.
My body gets flooded with adrenaline, I feel nervous, sweaty,
and sorta sick. I might even get approach freeze, in extreme
scenarios. This is, basically, the old 'fight or flight'
response kicking in.
There's an
opposite condition in the field of
psychoneuroimmunology called the relaxation response. It's
characterized by a reduction in blood pressure, heart rate,
respiration, perspiration, and an increased immune response.
In other words, a
good attitude can actually heal serious
ailments. There are numerous cases where patients have recovered
from cancer having been provided with nothing but placebos. They
expected to get better, and as a result, they did.
State control is
the variable which more than anything else
determines the quality of your game, particularly in the face
of overwhelming social pressure. The term "state" here refers
to the way you feel both physically and mentally when presented
with a challenge.
The challenge
itself is irrelevant. You might be sick with
cold, in a club that's louder than an F-16 taking off,
approaching a "10" who's surrounded by five tall, rich-looking
gorillas.
The key lies in
your perception of the scenario.
See, how you
perceive things will ultimately dictate the QUALITY
of your game, and your state at any given will invariably
determine your perceptions. So... when you can control your state
you control how good your response will be.
This is what lies
at the heart of the whole "inner game" issue.
It's ironic, because by worrying about this stuff, you
practically guarantee your failure. It's the old Pygmalion
effect.
In the Greek
myth, Pygmalion was a sculptor who created a female
statue and wanted so badly for it to be real that, with the help
of Aphrodite, the statue came to life.
What
psychologists now refer to as the Pygmalion Effect is
essentially a self-fulfilling prophecy. What we expect tends to
come true.
Even if that expectation isn't accurate, we will act
in ways consistent with the expected outcome, and in the
process our entire physiology and speech reflect this.
People have a tendency to respond by adjusting their
behavior to match ours. The end result is the expectation
becomes true.
I see this all
the time when I'm in the field with newbies.
I'll tell them to
open a set, and I can already see them cycling
through failure scenarios in their head.
Then they meekly approach the set and squeek out their
opener; nine times out of ten the target has to ask them to
repeat it because it was inaudible, then they give some
noncommittal answer.
These guys will then stutter and deliver a follow-up routine,
then stand there with insecure, needy body language, waiting
for the girl to say something.
Can you guess
what happens next?
They get BLOWN
THE HELL OUT.
Check it. The guy
is using the EXACT same material I use. The
words coming out of his mouth are exactly the same. I am not
better-looking than the newb, or better dressed.
Yet when I roll
up on a similar target, I do not get asked to
repeat myself, nor do I get noncommittal answers. My follow-up
does not get me blown out, but rather gets the target BLOWING
UP GIGGLING AND SHRIEKING.
What's the
difference?
Simple. While the
newb is sitting there pondering all the ways
he could possibly fail and look like a tool, I am contemplating
what sort of noises the chick will make when I'm doing her
from behind.
There are no
thoughts of failure, I don't have time for that,
and I seriously don't even give a damn, because I'm getting laid
like a rockstar regardless.
Consciously or
not, when we approach we tip people off as to
what our expectations are. We exhibit thousands of cues, some as
subtle as the tilting of heads, the raising of eye brows or the
dilation of nostrils.
Most are much
more obvious. And people pick up on those cues.
So basically,
your attitude determines your success in a lot of
respects.
Your attitude
also determines what you can get away with. I've
done some retarded, ridiculous stuff in the field that would get
a normal person smacked up in the blink of an eye, but I got
away with it because I was congruent with it.
Congruency and
your state go hand in hand.
Remember also
that girls are fluid; they will adapt to whatever
frame you set.
It's important, I
find, to monitor and control your state not
only during your interactions, but also before and after them.
Going into the night with a solid frame is much better than
trying to adjust your attitude once you get in the club.
Similarly, even
your state during debriefing can color your
perceptions of what actually happened, which can be misleading
and perpetuate unhealthy negativity loops.
By this point,
you're undoubtedly thinking, "OK, this is very
illuminating and all, but how can I use this information to
my advantage?
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How To Induce
Peak State And Maintain It At All Times
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There are a
number of ways to induce the relaxation response and hit state".
Clinically, it
has been found that hypnosis can be effective,
with some patients undergoing surgery without anesthesia, stuff
like that.
Meditation and
breathing techniques can also be very effective.
In practical terms, I find that just monitoring my breathing out
in the field gets good results.
Sometimes I'll catch myself breathing wrong, and I'll just slow
it down and hit a good rhythm; this helps a lot.
Humor will also
induce the relaxation response, which is kinda
weird because if you think about it, laughter has a lot of the
hallmarks of the stress response: erratic respiration,
increased heart rate, etc.
But nothing gets
me in state as quickly as just joking around
with my boys out at the club, busting each other's balls or
whatever, just acting weird.
Once we all get laughing hysterically, I feel unstoppable,
I'll approach any set at the drop of a hat. Cool stuff.
During the Real
Social Dynamics live, in-field persoanlized
workshops and bootcamps, your state will be pumped SKY-HIGH,
NON-STOP.
And once you know
these secrets, you'll be able to
induce that game-winning state ANYTIME, ANYWHERE.
You wanna know
what the best part is?
That's only the
beginning.
Over the course
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Armed with this
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=> Approach any
group of people without fear or hesitation.
=> Immediately
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=> Separate
yourself from the competition.
=> Build
attraction within minutes (if not seconds).
=> Consistently
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=> Deflect any
opposition with conversational ninjitsu.
=> Demonstrate
that your standards are extremely high.
=> Seal the deal
consistently!
Our bulletproof
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It'll increase your success beyond what you thought
imaginable. And it'll empower you to approach anyone,
anywhere, and break the tension and build rapport, while
sounding like an old pro.
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"Incredible. So
much info related in 3 days my mind is
SATURATED! Opened multiple sets on a regular basis - a
concept that I didn't think was realistic at all. Overcame
my fears/inhibitions and had awesome encounters with
absolutely beautiful women."
- Lance G, San
Francisco, CA
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Listen: knowing
exactly what to do, and when to do it, will
trim years off your learning curve.
And most "naturals" never learn this at all.. they "shoot from
the hip" and their closing ratios are embarrassing... yet they still
get with dozens of hot girls per year!
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